Trilogy of teaching a child

How do you teach your child in the future?

People always teach their children by :

1. Threatening / Empty Threat
   Classic examples : Police is coming (lol), If you don’t do your homework, you will be road sweeper (In general, the formula is : If you don’t do this, you will be very pathetic)
2. Comparison
   Examples : The next door children are always doing their homework, why don’t you do? All the children behave themselves, only you are naughty. (The list goes on and on; eating, sleeping, drinking, walking, you name it)
3.  Blaming
   Examples : I asked you not to touch this, see! You’ve got yourself hurt. (In general, the formula is : I tell you already, see the consequences )

In my opinion, teaching a child requires patient, wisdom, patient, patient, patient and patient. You’ve got to be really patient to teach a child. You have to be determined to teach your child in correct way that you defined without getting angry (at least don’t be too angry. Once you’re angry, you tend to use the three ways I define above (Which is wrong!!) .

Chest burn

I was having some peculiar symptom lately. When I tried to swallow hot stuff (either solid or liquid), and when it touched the throat I’d feel hot at the right chest. A kind of warm feeling. The degree of hot depends on the food or drink that I swallowed. The hotter the food, the warmer or hotter my chest would feel.

Upon inspection of doctor,  I am having throat infection.

Untold criteria of a friend

There is one particular criteria to be friend with other.

That you must be in perfect health condition(financial, physical, emotional, etc). If you’re ’sick’, you’d probably have few friends only.

There was a bbq, someone cut his finger, but everybody expected him to ‘recover right away’ or pretend his finger was alright. As virtually noone was concerning him. Or just a insincere : Are you all right?

There was a friend. His father passed away. Everyone is finding excuse not going to visit him.

There was me, asking friends to help on something : Everyone is finding excuse to reject me.

Probably, I must ensure myself always in healthy condition.

Selfish

Is human selfish being? Or is it just in my thought?

Am I broadening the criteria of selfish that many persons are falling into that category?

Expectation

Back in my hometown, unlike Singapore, the transportation is really not that convenient and safe.

Thus, for me without any vehicle back then, it’s difficult for me to go anywhere to eat, play, etc. So friends were needed (Haha).. There is a tendency for me to go out with those with vehicles.  I was very happy if I could travel even for a spin(Typical kids, isn’t it?). There was no thought of getting to anywhere or do anything.

Even it’s just a simple place for a chit-chat, I would be very happy.  That behavior is still engraved deep in myself. I don’t purposely plan something to do. I will be happy enough if tomorrow’s programme is just a dinner or lunch.

Nature or Environment

Is my nature that makes me think negatively or Is environment making me so?

Emotionally Rich

What is emotionally rich? It is to have so many good friends that treat you well.

As the saying goes, you treat other well, you’ll be treated well as well. This becomes a burden though when you have so many friends that treat you well. You have to do the same amount to them, if not more. It alone is not easy let along you have MANY friends.

One of the side effect of emotionally rich is you begin to treat other not-so-well. First, you have not enough time to do so. Second, you become proud(as the same like wealthiness, you begin to look down on people).

Finally, many of your friends begin to notice that you don’t treat them quite well. They begin to keep a distance from you and finally become a fair-weather friend.

Are you the one?

Dilemma

If your grandmother tells to hate your mother, What will you do?

彩虹(Modified Version)

可不可以别来烦我，
可不可以不要这么的啰嗦，
你的SYSTEM像苍蝇的糖果，
每次我TEST BUGS又会多好几陀。

有没有口罩一个给我
释怀说了太多就成真不了
也许时间是一种解药
也是我现在正服下的毒药

你是个爱唠叨的死老太婆，
每次我看到你我全身会冒火，
你这一头刚把工作丢给我，
你另一头又不断来打扰我。

看不见你的笑我怎么睡得着
你的身影这么近我却抱不到
没有地球太阳还是会绕
没有理由我也能自己走

你象只龟，却挨骂人懒惰，
你闯的祸，却要我们背锅，
如果有天，你老人痴呆不能再工作，
我会把你扔到厕所。

你要离开我知道很简单
你说依赖是我们的阻碍
就算放开那能不能别没收我的爱
当作我最后才明白

看到你我就很难过，
我不停地做你就光只是说，
你过着行尸走肉的生活，
还希望别人和你一起受折磨。

有没有口罩一个给我
释怀说了太多就成真不了
也许时间是一种解药
也是我现在正服下的毒药

你最厉害就是废话一箩箩，
从来就不反省自己的过错，
你的电脑比那垃圾还要破，
却逼我们为你卖命的工作。

看不见你的笑我怎么睡得着
你的身影这么近我却抱不到
没有地球太阳还是会绕
没有理由我也能自己走

你的存在，是公司的祸害，
你的离开，大家都乐开怀，
如果有天，我飞黄螣达变成你的CLIENT,
一脚把你踢进大海。

你要离开我知道很简单
你说依赖是我们的阻碍
就算放开那能不能别没收我的爱
当作我最后才明白

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